Pastor and author F. B. Meyer once confided to a friend that he felt welcome in any home in England except his own. His loveless marriage was a source of deep heartache. Yet Meyer believed that he, by his aching soul, was being prepared to give love and strength to others, and especially to his wife at the end of her days. He wrote these words to her:
If then your future life should need
A strength my love can only gain
Through suffering—or my heart be freed
Only by sorrow from some stain,
Then you shall give, and I will take
This crown of fire for Love’s dear sake.
You too may feel unloved. If so, don’t try to find love by befriending this world (James 4:4-5). Rather, give yourself to knowing and loving God. Let Him meet your deep need for affection and caring. “He gives more grace” (v.6)—more than anything you could ever gain on your own.
And here is multiplied grace: When you know and experience God’s unconditional love, you can then give yourself to others—even to those who have caused you great pain.
Allow God by His grace to work through your heartache, to control your intentions and desires. Allow Him to draw you in His direction and hold you with His affection, molding you to His perfect design. There is no greater love! —David Roper
You can know beyond all doubting
In the trials you're passing through
That our God's great love and mercy
Are at work for good in you. —Anon.
No one is beyond the reach of God's love.